You see the beautiful girl and you stare. At some point you will make eye contact with her.

1. Smile!

This will show her you are confident. It will also show her the most attractive version of yourself. Women are much more attractive when they are smiling; the same is true for men.

Next approach her, say \”Hi I am _____\”, smile again and extend your hand. Most women will shake your hand and tell you who they are but if she doesn\’t keep moving forward.

The next step is to ask her about herself, for example:

- Where are you from?

- What do you do?

You can also use a current event for example:

- Did you hear about ______?

2. Follow up questions

It\’s not enough to just ask her where she is from. You must follow it up with 2 – 3 questions to show you are genuinely interested. So for example she says \”Yes, I\’m from here.\”

You can say \”O really, so all your family lives here?\” Or \”Do you plan to stay here or do you want to move away?\” My point is when a girl answers a question she will give you material for more follow up questions.

You should ask her 2 – 3 follow up questions and then answer your own questions. So using the same example lets say she says \”Yes, all my family lives here. I have a younger sister.\”

You could say \”Yea, I moved out here a few years ago from New York, I have two brothers back there.\” This will help her feel like she is getting to know you. And you are getting to know her.

3. All it takes is 1 – 5 minutes of conversation and you can close. In your closing you must say either:

- Do you want to get a cup of coffee sometime?

Or

- Do you want to get together sometime?

The reason you don\’t ask her to dinner and a movie on a first date is because that is a lot of pressure. You have only talked to her for a few minutes and you don\’t really know her. Instead with these two closings you are really just asking her if she is interested in you.

Lastly, you must expect some rejection. This happens for all sorts of reasons. One thing that helps me when this happens is I will say to myself \”Don\’t chase her just replace her.\”

I know this sounds callous but it\’s just one girl. There are a lot of women in the world. Further, sometimes it doesn\’t matter who you are or what you say she is not going to be interested in anyone right now. So don\’t beat yourself up or think too much about it and move forward.

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